Becoming a Mother: Matrescence

Matrescence is a concept describing the psychological and identity transformation a woman undergoes in her transition to motherhood. Just like adolescence, motherhood involves deep changes in the brain, hormones, relationships, and identity — yet society rarely discusses this transformation. And if you're experiencing this, you are not alone.

What you may experience: The "Who am I?" question may resurface. Career identity, social identity, and personal identity may take a new shape. Loss of independence, guilt (both when away from the baby and when with the baby), feeling both happiness and loss — all of these are part of this process and completely understandable.

Brain changes: Scientific studies show that the gray matter structure of the mother's brain changes during pregnancy and postpartum. These changes strengthen empathy, alertness to danger, and bonding with the baby. "Mom brain" is a real neurological transformation — forgetfulness and emotional intensity have an explanation.

Supporting yourself: Knowing that this transformation is normal is very important. You don't have to be a "perfect mother" — embracing the idea of a "good enough" mother (as Winnicott put it) can take a lot of pressure off. You can keep parts of your old identity that you love — hobbies, friendships, dreams. Connecting with mothers at a similar stage also lightens this journey.