Holding your baby
Safe holds with head and neck support
About 5 min
Why it matters
A newborn's neck muscles can't hold up their head yet; head control usually develops around 3-4 months. A good hold protects your baby and builds your confidence.
What you need
- Hands washed with soap
- A comfy chair or the edge of a bed for your first tries
Step by step
- 1 Wash your hands with soap and water; take off rings and your watch.
- 2 Talk to your baby as you approach. Sudden movements startle them.
- 3 Slide one hand under their head and neck and the other under their bottom.
- 4 Lift slowly toward your chest; never let the head flop, not even for a moment.
- 5 Cradle hold: rest their head in the crook of your elbow and hold their bottom and legs with that arm's hand.
- 6 Shoulder hold: hold your baby upright with their head on your shoulder; one hand supports the neck, the other the bottom.
- 7 When putting them down, lower the bottom first, then the head; slide your hand out from under the neck last.
Common mistakes
- Letting go of head support, even for a second.
- Drinking something hot or standing at the stove while holding your baby.
- Tossing your baby in the air for fun, or shaking them.
- Dozing off with your baby on a sofa or armchair when you are tired.
When to see a doctor
- Your baby is constantly floppy, drowsy or hard to wake.
- They never move one arm or leg, or cry in pain when you touch it.
- After a fall or a bump to the head, see a doctor right away, even if they seem fine.
This guide gives general information and doesn't replace a medical exam. If you're worried about your baby, talk to your doctor.